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| author | Henson, Micah Kot, Mark Tung, Ka-Kit |
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| contents | The study of marriage dynamics and of strategies to reduce the likelihood of divorce has been an important research area for many years. Gottman's research on successful marriages revealed three matched interaction styles: conflict-avoiding, validating, and volatile. There has, however, been little progress in explaining how couples develop these styles of interaction and why failure to do so leads to failed marriages. In this paper, we show that these interaction styles arise as solutions to an optimal control problem where the couples jointly maximize a common goal. The validating style arises when the benefit from achieving joint happiness is balanced by the emotional cost of adopting a particular style. The ubiquitous conflict-avoider style arises naturally when the couple does not care about the cost. The volatile style is not an optimal solution, but volatile marriages may still be successful for couples with highly positive natural dispositions. The problem of the spouses having different goals in marriage is relevant to marriage repair, and this problem will be studied in the next paper using differential game theory. |
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| spellingShingle | Optimal Marital Strategies: How Couples Develop Successful Interaction Styles Henson, Micah Kot, Mark Tung, Ka-Kit Optimization and Control The study of marriage dynamics and of strategies to reduce the likelihood of divorce has been an important research area for many years. Gottman's research on successful marriages revealed three matched interaction styles: conflict-avoiding, validating, and volatile. There has, however, been little progress in explaining how couples develop these styles of interaction and why failure to do so leads to failed marriages. In this paper, we show that these interaction styles arise as solutions to an optimal control problem where the couples jointly maximize a common goal. The validating style arises when the benefit from achieving joint happiness is balanced by the emotional cost of adopting a particular style. The ubiquitous conflict-avoider style arises naturally when the couple does not care about the cost. The volatile style is not an optimal solution, but volatile marriages may still be successful for couples with highly positive natural dispositions. The problem of the spouses having different goals in marriage is relevant to marriage repair, and this problem will be studied in the next paper using differential game theory. |
| title | Optimal Marital Strategies: How Couples Develop Successful Interaction Styles |
| topic | Optimization and Control |
| url | https://arxiv.org/abs/2406.07403 |